Have you ever contemplated how much of your thoughts, communication, and (resulting) actions are based upon exchanging stories? We usually think of a “story” as fiction, and something separate to be read in a book or watched in a movie. But a lot of day to day life is fictionalized for various purposes. Hmm.
Have you every thought about that? Your life as a story either generated within yourself or by those around you? Subsequently, have you every considered whether your life is playing out more like a movie script — a drama of your own (unconscious ) design? Are you consciously and clearly writing/creating your journey … or swapping in “commercials” from somewhere else?
I watched someone come up with a great explanation why they didn’t do something today. You could explain the situation as a mis-communication or a mistake. But what I saw was a really good “reality story” in action — a line of reasoning setup to justify a goal, that didn’t take into account rather obvious outside consequences for the choice. Not seeing outside of his self-contained reality.
He believed his own story. And a lot of people believe their own stories, without examining them more deeply. A good place to start is to keep asking “why” (did I do that or say that) until you run out of layers of answers. The first answer to “why” is usually the primary story. The second answer is the backup story. You can see where it goes from there.
At the end of the line of questioning, you will probably be a lot more clear about how your day and life is organized … though maybe not as comfortable with yourself. That’s very ok. And that’s a great starting point for (real) change and re-orienting your actions and decisions to come from a place where you feel self-respect and peace in your heart.